How I Feel About Internet Dating

Hi guys!

Today I want to express my feelings on Internet dating and share some of my experiences. To start off I'll share with you a few safety guidelines I have created for myself. (Of course I had to learn the hard way! >.<)

1. If you are ever going to meet up with someone in real life please please please tell someone who you are meeting and where. Well my experiences have been safe and I have never experienced the dreaded "Catfish", there are some dangerous people out there and you have to be careful. If you are too embarrassed to let someone know you've been talking to someone online and want to meet them, you probably shouldn't be using the site.

2. Do NOT give out your phone number too quickly. This is one lesson I definitely learned the hard way and still deal with the repercussions. You may be talking to a guy and find him to be really cool and seemingly normal, so you give him your number. Then he suddenly turns into that possessive, jealous type that will blow up your phone with messages asking why you aren't answering. Then even when you try to stop talking to the person you are stuck with the periodic "please give me a chance", "hey are you there?" desperation texts. Or worse voicemails!

3. Never ever ever send out scandalous pictures of yourself. Any guy (or girl!) that is going to ask you for things like that before you've even met in real life is not worth your time and not ever going to respect you. He/she does not want to date you and tons of other girls/guys are probably sending them pictures too. 

4. Set a boundary for yourself of how long you want to talk to someone before you want to meet them. I usually do about 2-4 weeks as to see who is really interested in getting to know me and my personality. Plus it helps me feel more comfortable and confident when I'm going to meet them for the first time.

5. Give it time and don't be afraid to send a message first! Don't rush into meeting people and settling for dates with anyone who will message you. There are so many men/women on there that you get the option of being selective and picky, haha. And if you seem someone that really catches your attention just send them a short little message. If they don't answer you it isn't the end of the world (Even though it does feel disappointing sometimes). It took me a long time to come to terms with guys i'm interested in not replying to me, especially if it is based off of appearance. But just tell yourself that it's their loss, you know how awesome you are and they never get the honor of finding out!

Well that's my little rant for the day, and if you guys have any questions about online dating I have been participating in it for several years. I would love to try and answer your questions and give some advice. Just don't get discouraged. Like I said, I have been dating online for many years and have met quite a few people. Of all those people, I only dated one long term. Just stick with it, be safe, selective and have fun meeting new people that you may not have met otherwise. 

This is a glimpse into my Wonderful Reality.

Adult life and Its Many Problems

Hi everyone,

I've been so busy lately working my new job at the assisted living facility and going to school. I'm pulling really high grades so far and finally getting the hang of everything at work. Of course, that is where the problems come in.

I have now accepted a new job working with children with Autism again for an agency. I'm now in a debacle where I have to decide if I want to try and keep both jobs or quit the job at the assisted living facility. (any advice?!) I've only been working this job for about three months so I feel sort of bad leaving it already when the invested their time and money into me. The new job is going to give me clients every afternoon Monday through Friday and pay me a significant amount more. This leaves the possibility of staying with my other job for weekend shifts, but I'm not sure if I want to or not. 

The next issue I'm facing is possibly changing my major along with all my other plans to move away for college. For the last four years I've been certain I was going to major in Biology with an emphasis in zoology. This semester I'm enrolled in a Biological Psychology class that I am completely enthralled, passionate and really successful in. I want to possibly change my major to cognitive science or neuroscience. This would mean transferring to a different college than I planned, in a different city than I planned.

So my life is full of indecision and uncertainty but I'm allowing myself to be okay with that. College is the time to find what you love, change your mind...and that's alright. I will figure it out and be successful at whatever I end up doing. 

This is a glimpse into my Wonderful Reality.